- Sorry about the double posting.
- I guess I have convinced myself that relationships are too much work and I just don't have time and energy to rescue or help another person resolve their issues and then become an adult in the relationship. I signed up on a dating website and started getting emails from men who did not even have a decent opening line. Most cannot even sustain a dialogue beyond, "how are you?" "how was your day." I am aware my pictures are garnering the attention but there is mention of multiple educational degrees I have and the work I do in my profile, so why don't men of my calibre approach me? Have I set the benchmark too high? Am I expecting too much? My girl friends tease me, "you don't need a man, you are the man." Whereas, a senior friend tells me I am too self sufficient, amicable and undemanding so another person has nothing much to offer. I am not looking for a man but a partner who is respectful of who I am. Is it that my critical inner voice that is saying you are enough, you don't need anyone because in the end it will hurt? How do I get past this and let love into my life.
- I find it difficult to feel the love toward a girl as I did when I was younger. I stopped getting involved because of this and the anxiety I felt knowing that I was going to hurt a sweet person yet again. I'm back in the "game" with a wonderful girl who I can find no faults but I am anxious and pulling away again and this is very frustrating.
- What are some critical inner voices you have about you or your relationship?
- What elements of a Fantasy Bond have you noticed in your relationships?