Introduction:

Presentation: What is Differentiation?

Welcome to your first multimedia presentation! Because they are the cornerstone to each lesson, I strongly suggest that you watch these presentations before moving on to any of the recommended readings, video clips or weekly exercises. I think of these presentations as an opportunity to speak to you directly, and I hope that you will use the discussion forums at the bottom of each lesson page to post any of your own responses, questions or comments on the topics addressed.
 

Recommended Reading:

With each lesson, I’ll be suggesting certain excerpts from The Self Under Siege along with supplemental blogs and articles that will offer a fuller understanding of the concepts we’re discussing.

• • • Preface – The Self Under Siege
    •  Ch. 1 Introduction – The Self Under Siege
    • 7 Steps to Living the Life You Imagined

Exercises:

Exercise 1: Who is the Real You?

Differentiation is a process of self-development and self-discovery. In order to separate from negative influences and become your real self, you need to uncover who that person truly is. Asking yourself the following questions will help you start to make these distinctions and begin to unravel the mystery of who you really are and what matters most to you.

In your journal, write down:

• Times when you notice you feel the most yourself.
• Times when you notice yourself following in the footsteps of others (i.e. of parents or other influential figures).
• What are the things that light you up?
• What are the things you do to please or conform to the standards of others?
• Are there areas of your life in which you act either childish or parental?
• At what times do you lose your own point of view?